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Lisa Garrett Farhat, M.Ed., LPC, RPT
(817) 952-9287
117 John Street, Aledo, TX 76008
Serving  families throughout Fort Worth and Weatherford

                                                                                                                                               

Healing Services for Children & Families

 

You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.

- Plato

Compassion

Farhat Family Counseling offers a safe, nurturing environment where kids can play, talk, dance, sing, wiggle, shout, paint, cry, dress-up, create, move, laugh, pretend, rest, think, and sometimes just be...until they feel better. 

The tricky thing is that we don't always know when kids need to feel better, but we are quick to recognize when they need to act better. So let's begin by saying these two needs usually go hand-in-hand.  If we are concerned about a child's behavior, then we should also be concerned about that child's feelings.

How do we convey this concern to our children?  We tell them - but that is not enough.  We can't just talk about it.  We must show them that we care by giving them a chance to express themselves and communicate with us in a way that feels natural and comfortable for them.  This means we play with them.

Playing may not look like much to us, but when an adult allows a child to "speak" with play instead of just words it symbolizes acceptance.  When kids feel accepted, they learn about relationships and the world around them, but most importantly, they learn about themselves and their feelings.  Children that learn how to label feelings appropriately and express them effectively have better coping skills, more appropriate behavior, stronger self-esteem, and more connected relationships. 


Communication


It is important to use play in a therapeutic setting because kids and adults speak different languages, and unfortunately, feelings can get lost in translation.  Most adults choose to communicate by talking, but this is not the natural choice for children.  The old saying "actions speak louder than words" is really true when it comes to kids.

For example, a child may act silly or misbehave in order to say "I'm anxious" because he can't put it into words; he might not even know the word anxious.  However, in adult language, acting out can mean the child is disrespectful or defiant, so we focus on changing his behavior, and his feelings of anxiety may go unaddressed.  This results in the child and the adult feeling confused and misunderstood. 

This language barrier works both ways.  Adults may use questions such as "How do you feel about that?"  or "Why are you crying?" to convey concern...seems logical, right?  To adults, yes, but not always to children.  Questions (especially when asked by an adult) can be intimidating to children.  After all, they learn that most questions come with right and wrong answers; think about a typical day at school.  It's unreasonable to say that questions are bad or that we should never ask them, but it's important to recognize that our good intentions can get lost in translation.

The goal is to help families around Fort Worth and Weatherford bridge this communication gap. Play therapy, unlike traditional talk therapy, is an active, developmentally appropriate and effective way to show kids that their feelings are important to us. 

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